• at August 31, 2018

    There’s no easy way to break the ice, so I’m just gonna admit something that I’ve been too afraid to share with my friends and family: I have a problem with anxiety. I have tried my best to ‘sort myself out’ on my own but it isn’t working.

    Do any of you have any advice on what I can try, take or do? For example, is there something you did that helped? Or perhaps you saw someone who did? This is ruining my life and the more it carries on, the more it is getting to me. I’m too embarrassed to tell my friends and don’t want to burden my family with these issues. I feel like I don’t have anybody to talk to.

  • at August 31, 2018

    Thank you for sharing your problems with us. I know it must’ve taken a lot of courage for you to create this thread, but you’ve taken the right first step. I, for one, know how difficult and debilitating anxiety can be. However, I wanted you to know that it is possible to make huge improvements, even though it seems impossible right now.

    There was a point in my life when I thought I can handle my anxiety by myself too. Thought I was Superwoman and I had to keep a strong façade in front of everybody I know. What many people don’t understand is that the anxiety we suffer is different from the anxiety of ‘normal’ folks.

    Everyone feels some degree of anxiety, but in my case and yours, it can actually ruin our lives.

    My suggestion? Get some form of help. It doesn’t have to be from a friend or family member, but go talk to somebody about how you’re feeling right now. Trust me, it will help you a lot.

  • at August 31, 2018

    I agree with Oliver. Anxiety is something very difficult for most people to grasp. Depression is another illness that is often misunderstood. People who are depressed don’t necessarily have depression. Some of these conditions require therapy and even medication.

    For me, personally, I managed to turn things around with the help of Brian Collinson. I suggest you stop trying to do this on your own. Speak to your doctor and get some kind of referral so that you receive help. You can call the place I used too, but I still suggest you speak with your family doctor first.

  • at August 31, 2018

    Thank you for the kind words! It’s so nice to hear good advice from people who have experienced this. It makes me feel a little less alone in this world. I tried opening up to a few people in the past, but they usually just tell me to get over it. Not helpful advice at all.

  • at August 31, 2018

    Yup, I’ve heard that advice too. Don’t let their words bother you. Just stay focused on yourself and what you need to do.

  • at August 31, 2018

    Personally, when I look back, I find that being involved in both a group setting and in a one-on-one situation helped. If you are asked to be in a group, don’t feel shy and turn it down. There are others and it can help to have a support network.

    Listening to others can also help. You can all share your concerns and it can release a lot of stress. There were times I used to think, “if you think you have it bad, I feel so sorry for Mandy”. Others can have bigger problems and it can give you hope that you can get past this.

  • at August 31, 2018

    Thank you for that advice. Yes, I do realize that there may be others with bigger problems. I can clearly see your point about group sessions. I am definitely open to it.

    Thank you all for the advice and encouragement and opening up to me. I truly appreciate it, from the bottom of my heart.